What is a baby sleep consultant? Its a person online claiming to be a baby sleep expert – a baby sleep “whisperer” if you will. Someone who is so knowledgeable and has so much experience with baby sleep problems, that all you have to do is describe your problem and BOOM! They will have the answer, tailored just for you and your situation. They will give you some spiel and you are to take that advice, apply it and all your baby sleep problems will be solved.
Do you think it is really necessary to hire a baby sleep consultants to solve your baby’s sleep problems? It sounds really pricey and I am taking a huge risk here by saying what I am about to say since so many sleep consultants and sleep consulting internet companies are going to hate me for exposing them! However, I feel like this is in the best interest of all parents out there looking to get some rest and invest in helping their child sleep.
Don’t invest in a online baby sleep consultant! They are completely useless! That is the truth! Any baby sleep consultant who claims to help you get your baby to sleep is only there to only waste your hard-earned money and time.
Do you know why they are useless? Because they are only reachable by phone or the internet, and that means they cannot be physically there with you. How can they really help you if they aren’t going to be literally right there to properly assess why your baby is not sleeping properly or is wide awake? I am talking about the legions of baby sleep consultants online offering “packages” ranging from $40 all the way to $500 for “membership” to some elite site and access to a network of people who are not really doctors, but claim to be professionals.
You are the only one who knows your baby! Not some stranger over the internet or phone. Only you know what your baby needs, and instead of relying on the help of a pricey yet useless baby sleep consultants- what you need to do is raise your awareness about how to help your baby sleep, and to do it with the help of your own network; including other moms you know in real life, your own mother or mother-in-law (perhaps), your pediatrician and self-education.
Yes, don’t rely on any baby sleep consultants because they are only there to rip you off. They only want your money and nothing more. They come off as pretending that they are sleep experts but they are not- unless they are pediatricians. Just because on their website it says that they have a Phd, doesn’t really mean they do. Don’t believe everything you read online unless its backed up by a credible authority site, such as a college website like Harvard or Stanford, or the La Leche League even!
And sleep experts who are doctors would never go by calling themselves baby sleep consultant or even sleep expert. They would simply call themselves pediatricians or doctors – right? If you spent 12+ years to get a PhD, I feel like calling yourself a “Baby Sleep Coach” demotes and diminishes the value of all that education and training you have done. It’s like as if you decided to buy a big plot of land, and you spend years building your big dream house, but when you are finally finished with it years & years later, you rent yourself a small apartment somewhere in the ghetto and let your big dream house sit empty. Doesn’t make sense right lol? So, basically if you want to talk to a professional about your infant poor sleeping habits, then you talk to your baby’s pediatrician. Not any so-called baby sleep consultant!
And here is the other thing that you need to know. There really is a lot of excellent information around and all you have to do is Google how do I get my baby to sleep at night or tips on helping my baby sleep through the night, and you get the idea.
There are also some amazing mom communities that can give you support or advice. Especially those moms of older kids who have been through the same experience – and have found ways to help their babies sleep from their past. They would also give advice to struggling moms about how they got their babies to sleep at night. Wouldn’t you? Once you found *right the way* to put your little one to sleep, wouldn’t you pass any helpful information to new moms as well?
Why am I so adamant about avoiding a baby sleep consultant? That is because I am talking from experience:
When my son was born, he did not sleep! I mean I expected that my son would not sleep at first because of the fact that newborns don’t sleep through the night since they are constantly needing to be fed and changed. I read this book called, “12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks” and I tried using the strategies explained on my son. But it got to a point when my son was becoming colicky and as a result, sleep was not in the cards for either myself or for him.
All night, every night, for 3 months straight I would pace back & forth holding my son, rocking him, bouncing him. But I could never place him down in his bassinet because he would begin to cry. Because I am a single mother, there was no one there to give me a break and trade places with every other night. I was so desperate for some much-needed sleep and therefore, as a result, I did some Googling and I came upon a name of a someone who claimed to be a baby sleep consultant. And because I was so swayed by the term sleep consultant, I thought I found my solution! I seriously believed that this individual had some special secret that would once and for all solve my baby’s sleeping problems!!
So what ended up happening was that I hired this person to give me the solution that I was so desperately seeking. I plunked down$45 for membership, which included a 20-minute Skype consultation. If I wanted a more in depth, longer consultation I had to pay around $100 for a “gold membership” with included a 45 minute consultation. In all honesty, I can compare that experience with being on one of those 1-900 psychic phony lines because I was feeling so rushed to have all of my questions answered.
The Sleep Consultant was nice, friendly, of course – but she didn’t ask me very many questions about my son in particular, like his weight or how much he was eating. She talked about baby sleep in general and told me to rock my baby and place him in his bassinet when he was drowsy but not asleep, and then she told me to say goodnight, shut the door and basically if my son began to cry, to just let him cry himself to sleep. But my son was 3 months old. If you know anything about sleep training, you should know that you are not supposed to let a baby younger than 4 months cry it out. Duh. Obviously this lady had no clue what she was talking about.
When the session was ending, I still had so many questions that were not answered and was left with more during the very short session. As soon as I wanted to ask more, as well as elaborating on the answers to the only a few of my questions that she gave me partial answers to, the so-called sleep consultant basically said to me: “Sorry, that is all we have time for as our session is over. If you want more time for me to answer you more questions, you will need to purchase another session with me”. And that was all I was left with. All I had was a thinner wallet, wasted time, and I was no better off than I was before I contacted that person. At the time I felt like I was in a seriously hopeless situation! However, I knew I had to become more proactive and never fall for a scam like I did at that time.
Therefore, because of that, I was forced to start educating myself on how to get my baby to sleep! So, between the help of my son’s pediatrician, doing my own research and chatting with other moms who have been where I was at the time which helped me increase my own awareness- I finally found a way to help my son sleep through the night! And, I also started sleeping again.
Now I am in the same position as those other moms who helped me out when I was desperate! I want to help you out and my first suggestion again is to take a deep breath and not spend a dime on any baby sleep consultant. They will rip you off the same way that one did to me! I don’t want you to go through the annoying and aggravating experience of doing that like I did!
So I am here to give you the tips and advice that other experienced moms and my pediatrician gave me at that desperate time in my life! I will also give you a product recommendation that I can tell you were a Godsend to me because it really did help my son start sleeping while he was going through newborn colic!
Even though a newborn cannot go by a schedule as they only have their own internal clock to rely on, there are methods on how you can start getting them to understand the difference between night and day. You can do this as early as the moment you take your baby home for the first time from the hospital. Here are some great recommendations:
If you are feeling so desperate and overwhelmed right now because you are in the position that I was with Oliver when he was a newborn, I promise you that in the end, your baby will sleep. Your baby will also go through something called “Sleep Regression” which I will go into in my next post. Even if again these tips and tricks that I mentioned above did not help you find the solution you were looking for. Like I said before in that kind of situation, that is when it is time to consult with your baby’s pediatrician. That is what they are there for.
But please, whatever you do, never ever look for baby sleep experts or baby sleep consultants or even sleep “coaches” or sleep consultants online. They are only there to drain your wallet. There is no “one secret trick” to making your baby sleep and sleep well. It comes with patience and making adjustments in your life to where only you know adjustments need to be made. You and your doctor are the only people qualified to evaluate the situation. Sleeping is a learned skill and your child will not go off to college still needing a bottle in the middle of the night, so do not worry about it never happening lol. It will.
I hope this answered your question, “What is a baby sleep consultant” and hopefully it has motivated you to do some research on your own to figure out this big mystery that is baby sleep. Please let me know if you have any experience working with a sleep consultant and if it was positive or negative in the comments below!